Do You Masturbate?

Our society has played a major role in how weview our sexuality as whole, women are supposed to wait until they are married to have sex or find ‘the right one’, even though parents nowadays know that’s not likely, we still hope and pray in the back of our minds that our children will never have sex, or again…at least wait until their married. Well that’s ridiculously unrealistic and sets our kids up to fail. How many people actually wait until marriage, or the ‘right one’ for that matter. Teens are tingly (horny) people, their hormones are raging and their life experiences new and challenging. They need outlets, and ones they can feel good about, without the shame and guilt.

How many parents are actually masturbating when they are stressed, or horny, or because they have no active sex partner? Even married people are having less sex, and guess what, most married men are masturbating, and married women are beginning to. But with an enormous amount of shame behind such a forbidden act, we are not teaching our children how to make healthy sexual decisions.  

Instead we tellyoung boys they are not real men if they don’t have sex with the ‘real thing’ (btw, what the heck is the real thing?), and we tell young girls that if they touch their vaginas they are nasty. This form of sex education is NOT helping our young people. They end up becoming 30 year-old women who have pleasure less sex with partners, can’t tell a partner what makes them tingle (horny), and saddest of all still faking orgasms. This is absolutely unnecessary! If a woman feels the need to fake an orgasm that means she feels like she should be having one too. And you know what she should be! Biologically, sex is for pleasure and procreation. There are a lot of other good uses too, but those are the basics.

And parents, how about we start slow, by calling body parts actual names. Vulva or vagina not “cookie”, and penis not “peepee”. We don’t call our legs “walkies” and our arms “holdies”, let’s give our children the chance to know their body parts so they can learn to love them. And parents who aren’t masturbating (or feeling so bad about it that it defeats the purpose) try something new. Explore your body. Appreciate the pleasure it provides and be grateful for how wonderful you are for loving yourself. Believe me, your kids will notice the jump in your step and the life in your eyes once you have released pleasurable energy throughout your body.

Now, Ms. QuiraA knows everyone is not ready to step outside of their box and own their sexual rights, which is perfectly OK. Hopefully there will a life experience or maybe even an epiphany that leads you on that path for enhanced pleasurable experiences, with yourself, or with others. No worries, in due time.

 Whenever you’re ready…

Whenever you're ready...